Sunday, October 09, 2005

we are really just humans

Help for the future, something very thoughtful on something that occurs very often in daily life. Of course there are certain things i don't agree upon, but it just rings home some reminders that the super-insertlabel (e.g. alphamale, superwoman) ideals are just ideals but not nirvana. I admit to striving for the super-student ideal (still far from it), and also the superwoman ideal. As much as i love to loathe that i do not follow society's conventions blindly, this is one chase that has me pondering about why i do what i do. Of course we should never confuse that with the seeking of excellence in one's work and one that's purely motivated by a blind obsession. Then again it also depends on each individual's definition of the super-insertlabel, sigh there aren't many absolutes are there, hehe. But my super-insertlabel generally meant that i was superhuman and i didn't need help from others. The strong, the intelligent, the independent, etc. But once in a while certain things don't go my way and a few more others just don't gel like they used to, and then i start questioning myself why(it's really more complex than this but for now i can't quite think of what to fill it in with), it generally leads to a pretty long self-esteem-destructive period, before i finally break down and realise that i really can't do this on my own. But finally when i do seek help and/or confide in others, then i slowly make my way out of the little hole that i dug myself and all is fine again. I think the media's perpetuation of it doesn't help to remind us that sometimes we're really just human and that the ability to seek help is something that really many people should learn. Of course there's also the other end of the spectrum which is equally bad, but that's another help-seeking behavior topic to talk about.

Unknown at 7:16 am